Wednesday, September 9, 2026

Cockroach Crumbs




Nobody remembered exactly when the word, “people,” disappeared. Perhaps it happened after the bombs. Perhaps before. After years of escalating conflicts, America's enemies had formed an alliance no one believed possible. 


The first strikes came before dawn. Government buildings disappeared. Military installations followed. Hospitals overflowed until there were no hospitals left to overflow. Schools became shelters, shelters became rubble, and cities that had glowed from space became black patches on satellite maps.


Alaska was hit.

Hawaii was hit.

Puerto Rico was hit.

The mainland burned.

The United States of America ceased to exist.


In its place rose OppTor—the Oppressive Tormenter—a regime controlled by those powerful enough, wealthy enough, ruthless enough, and fortunate enough to survive. The rest became something else.


At first they were called refugees. Then migrants. Then illegals. Then burdens. Then vermin. Eventually someone called them cockroach crumbs.


The name stuck.


Maria Bennett had once been a third-grade teacher in Ohio. Nobody cared. Her husband, David, had been an electrician. Nobody cared about that either. Their daughter Lucy was six years old. Their son Matthew was two. Nobody cared about them at all.


Now they were four cockroach crumbs walking north.


Maria carried Matthew against her chest in a sling made from strips of David's shirt. David carried Lucy whenever her feet became too blistered to walk. They had heard Canada was accepting refugees. Then they heard Canada wasn't.


Then someone said Mexico was. Someone else said Mexico had closed its border too. Nobody knew what was true anymore.


They walked anyway.


Around them traveled thousands of people who had once possessed names, addresses, jobs, mortgages, driver's licenses, college degrees, credit scores, retirement accounts and opinions about what should be done with desperate people who crossed borders. None of those things mattered now.


They were hungry. They were homeless. And they were immigrants.


At the Canadian border, Maria stood among hundreds of Americans pressed against a newly reinforced fence. A guard shouted through a loudspeaker. “THE BORDER IS CLOSED.”


Someone cried. Someone begged. A man held his infant above his head. “Please! She's sick!”


“THE BORDER IS CLOSED.”


“We have nowhere else to go!”


“RETURN TO YOUR COUNTRY.”


A strange silence passed through the crowd. Their country? Behind them, smoke rose from what remained of it.


Maria looked down at Lucy. “Mommy, why won't they let us in?” Maria couldn't answer. She remembered television reports from years earlier. Families at borders. Children sleeping beneath foil blankets. Mothers carrying babies across deserts and rivers. Politicians arguing about walls and laws and invasions.


Maria had never thought much about those people. She hadn't hated them. That was what she told herself now. She simply hadn't thought much about them.


Lucy tugged her sleeve. “Mommy?”


Maria looked through the fence at the Canadian guards. “Maybe they're afraid of us.”


“Why?”


Maria swallowed. “Because we're immigrants.”


Lucy frowned. “But we're people.”


Maria pulled her closer. “Yes, Honey,” she whispered. “We are.”


The new government of OppTor had little use for people who could not increase its wealth. Those captured were assigned to labor camps. They cleared rubble. They rebuilt roads. They planted crops. They repaired electrical systems. They manufactured goods. They constructed enormous homes for the oligarchs who governed what remained of the country.


Guards watched from towers. The workers were given enough food to remain useful. No more. Words began disappearing too. Charity. Mercy. Compassion. Refugee. Eventually even love became dangerous. Those words suggested that one human being might owe something to another merely because both were human.


OppTor considered that idea ridiculous and subversive.


Far south, another stream of Americans moved toward Mexico. At the border stood Captain Alejandro Ruiz. His orders were simple. No Americans admitted.


For three days he obeyed.


He watched them arrive: accountants, nurses, mechanics, grandmothers, construction workers, teenagers, babies, and others. Some carried backpacks. Some carried grocery bags. Some carried nothing.


On the fourth morning, an elderly American woman, carrying a little girl, approached the barrier. “Please,” she said.


Ruiz shook his head. “The border is closed.”


“My granddaughter needs food.”


“I cannot help you.”


The woman stared at him. “Please,” she begged.


Ruiz looked away. His own grandmother had once told him about relatives who had tried to enter the United States decades earlier. Some succeeded, but some were deported, and others were treated as criminals before anyone knew their names. He had grown up hearing those stories. Now an American grandmother stood before him holding a hungry child.


For one terrible moment, revenge felt remarkably similar to justice. Then the little girl looked at him. Not American, not foreign, not legal, not illegal. Just hungry.


Ruiz reached into his lunch bag, grabbed an orange, and pushed  it through the fence. The child grabbed it. The grandmother began crying. Ruiz looked toward the other guards, then toward the hundreds of Americans waiting behind her. He unlocked the gate.


Canada softened next. First children with their parents were admitted. Then the elderly. Soon officials stopped inventing categories of suffering worthy enough to deserve mercy. People crossed. Not Americans, not immigrants, not cockroach crumbs. People.


Some Canadians objected. Some Mexicans objected. “Why should we help them after the way they treated us?”


It was a reasonable question. But eventually someone asked a better one. If we become cruel because someone else was cruel first, when does cruelty end?


Meanwhile, the rulers of OppTor congratulated themselves. The troublesome population had been greatly reduced. There were fewer mouths to feed, fewer sick people requiring medicine, fewer elderly people requiring care, fewer poor people requiring assistance.


The nation belonged to the powerful now!


But problems they hadn’t consider arose.


The crops began failing. “Find workers.” There weren't enough. Factories slowed. “Find workers.” There weren't enough. Electrical grids failed. “Find workers.” There weren't enough. Sewage systems broke. Hospitals had too few nurses. Buildings had too few electricians. Warehouses had too few drivers. Restaurants had too few cooks. The oligarchs became furious!


Who would grow their food? Who would repair their homes? Who would build their mansions? Who would manufacture their precious commodities? Who would clean their rooms, cook their meals, maintain their yachts and produce the wealth upon which their superiority depended?


They had spent years deciding which human beings were worthless. Then they discovered something extraordinary.


They needed them.


OppTor eventually collapsed, not because compassion defeated cruelty, not because good defeated evil, not even because another country conquered it. It collapsed because the people who believed themselves superior eventually turned upon one another. When there were no powerless people left to blame, they blamed each other.


When there were no outsiders left to hate, they created new outsiders. When there were no cockroach crumbs left beneath them, they began deciding which among themselves should become the next cockroach crumbs. And so they destroyed one another.


Years later, children in Canada and Mexico learned about the country that had once called itself the United States of America. Their teachers told them about its enormous cities, its wealth, its inventions, its armies and its power.


They also taught them about its refugees.


One child raised her hand. “What were cockroach crumbs?”


The teacher was quiet for a moment. Then she answered. “They were people.”


The child looked confused. “Then why did they call them that?”


The teacher looked around the classroom. “Because sometimes the easiest way to justify cruelty to human beings is to stop calling them human beings.”


And that, perhaps, was the lesson the world came closest to learning. Not how to prevent World War III. Not how to build stronger borders. Not even how to defeat tyrants.


A lesson much simpler – never allow a word to convince you that the person standing on the other side of a border is less human than you are.


Thursday, September 21, 2023

Halloween Coloring Books! Get Yours Now in Time for Halloween!

Just in time for Halloween! 

2 Halloween coloring books!

As Summer ends and Autumn begins, we settle into a cozier time of year. The bewitching Halloween parties and costumes, Trick or Treat for the kiddos, and more indoor activities for the whole family. What better way to spend your time with your kids – or even by yourself, coloring? 

OK, I know you can think of lots of other things to do with your time, but come on! Did you enjoy coloring as a kid? I did, and I still enjoy coloring – by myself or with my grandkids!

Sooooo, here are two Halloween coloring books for you to explore. Now would be a good time to order them, because you'll receive them by Halloween.

Aww, did you miss the deadline? I have good news for you – Halloween is a yearly holiday!

Some Ultra Scary, Very Scary, Not-So-Scary Monsters Coloring Book: Weird Monster Coloring Book



Halloween Coloring BOO! (book): Halloween Lovers Coloring Book


Thank you for visiting! Have a great day and make it a great day for someone else! (thank you Katherine)
Find a little joy and sprinkle it everywhere!

Monday, January 17, 2022

Back, Neck, and Hip Pain Relief After 70 Years of Pain

 For nearly my entire life, I have suffered from back pain. You might see me sitting on the floor of a department store, leaning over a cart at the grocery store, or just praying – for relief.

Fast forward 70 years and one amazing doctor recommends something that no other doctor (that I remember – I'm not really sure – my mind capacity is filled with Swiss cheese holes) has recommended. Could it help?


Drum roll, please! YES! Not only did it help, it offered amazing relief and a whole new outlook on life! The photos in the video shown above share exercises that were tailor-made for me and modified according to my ability to perform them. I show them in this video so that you can talk to your doctor about what exercises you can do to relieve your back, neck, and hip pain. Always consult your doctor before you begin exercises of any kind, but especially when you are already experiencing pain.

Here is the pad I use for balance. According to my physical therapists, balance becomes an issue when you become older, so to better balance your body, learning how to balance on one of these thick foam pads is very helpful.


I had to purchase the foam pad, but my physical therapists provided me with resistance bands. If you need resistance bands, here is a link for you:


I cannot tell you how amazing I feel now that I've been exercising with only those two tools! Can you imagine? I'm 70 and I feel better today than I did when I was 19! And all I do is s-t-r-e-t-c-h!

I wish for all of you a healthy, pain-free life. Thank you for taking time out of your busy day to read my blog. Please find some joy today and sprinkle it everywhere.



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Wednesday, July 14, 2021

How to Cope With Depression and Suicidal Thoughts – a Helpful Journal

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), more than 260 million people (more than 3%) out of a global population of 7,846,000,000 suffer from depression worldwide. Depression is a leading cause of disability and a major contributor to disease. The sad truth is that depression sometimes leads to suicide.

Healthline.com lists the following types of depression: major depressive disorder (depression felt most of the time); persistent depressive disorder (when depression lasts longer than two years, also known as dysthymia); bipolar disorder (formerly called manic depression, characterized by extreme mood changes); seasonal depression (referred to as SAD, Seasonal Affective Disorder, which generally occurs during the winter months due to lack of sunlight); postpartum depression (a type of depression that occurs following childbirth); and psychotic depression (represented by hallucinations, paranoia, and delusions).

Suicide rates continue to rise among all ages, according to the Suicide Prevention Resource Center. And while many websites offer a variety of coping skills to manage depression, those who actually suffer from depression find advice like, watch cute videos and learn how to be grateful for things and people in your life is not really helpful because we've tried those methods and they haven't worked.

So what works? What besides therapy, which many of us cannot afford, can help us climb out of our depressive states and learn to find joy in our lives? The first thing we depressed people need to realize is that the choices we make are the most important factors in changing our lives and allowing us to find joy despite our depression. The motivation to make that change, when we feel that nothing matters anymore, is difficult and sometimes impossible. We feel overwhelmed and scattered.

Nobody wants to feel depressed, and everybody who suffers from depression wants to learn how to cope with it, but how? The prospect of handling our depression by ourselves is overwhelming. So let's break it down.

How about making just one decision? If we find ourselves lying in bed day after day, for example, let's choose to put one foot on the floor. Then choose to put our other foot on the floor. One step at a time. Lie back down if we feel we have to and congratulate ourselves for taking that first step. But don't give up. We have to take one more step and one more step and then we have to choose to DO something – anything.

One exercise that might help us, and we don't even have to get out of bed to do it, is to record our moods in a depression journal that comes with a mood tracking calendar. Keep it, along with a pen, next to our beds. Who knows us better than we do? And by recording our daily – or sometimes hourly moods – in the journal, we might discover a pattern and learn what triggers us each day.


 

The above journal gives a short background story about the author's experiences with depression and includes a mood tracking calendar, along with notes pages for you to record such information as YouTube videos you want to watch, books you want to read, advice you found helpful, and things you want to remember. The video below discusses a particular type of depression that affects many people, persistent depressive disorder (dysthymia), mentioned above.

The 6 Signs of High Functioning Depression


If you live in North America, and you are suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255. Go to Suicide.org for more information, and if you are in immediate danger, no matter where you live, call your local emergency number. 

When you have learned how to cope with your depression successfully, find a little joy and sprinkle it everywhere. We all need more joy in our lives.

If you're still reading this blog, I invite you to watch my YouTube channel, Joyful Eclectic Woman. And if you would like to contribute to my Living My Life fund, please click the link. 

As always thank you for visiting! 







Monday, November 4, 2019

Your Phone is on Vibrate and You Can't Find It! How To Find Your Phone Even if it's on Vibrate!

How many times have you lost your phone and had other people call it so you could find it? How many times have you retraced your steps to locate your missing phone? Guess what! I discovered a way to find my phone without any apps, without using my iPad, and without having people call me! Here is the discovery I made!