Thursday, April 8, 2010
When Little Boys Want To Marry Their Mommies
And then I had a boy. Poor thing. He grew up with a mom who knew nothing about boys at all and, as time went by, he had to share me and his home with three other girls.
What I learned about being a mom to a boy was that boys are very protective of and affectionate with their moms. And moms love their little boys.
Don't get me wrong. Moms love their little girls too, but their relationship with their sons is different. Simply because they are different, boys are fun to watch.
When my oldest daughter had her own son 17 years ago, she was still married. Travis was the youngest of three with two older sisters. Keeley called to tell me about a conversation she had with Travis.
In his most loving voice, Travis told his mom that he was going to marry her when he grew up.
"You can't marry me, Travis. I'm your mother. You can't marry your mother."
Travis was not happy with that response.
"But I want to," he insisted, as if want alone would change her mind.
"Well," Keeley said, as she attempted to ease his obvious pain, "You can't marry me, Travis, but you can marry somebody who reminds you of me, somebody who is like me, who looks like me, who acts like me, who talks like me, and who walks like me. How does that sound?"
My grandson considered his options, probably running through his mind as he thought of all his potential female companions. Finally his eyes lit up. "I know!"
My daughter looked into his eyes.
"I can marry Grandma!"
Oh, we are such bad parents – Keeley laughed. I laughed when she told me.
Later that day, I visited my daughter and my three grandchildren, Amanda, Sarah, and Travis. I sat down on the couch and Travis made it a point to sit next to me. As Keeley watched from the kitchen, Travis discreetly raised up his arm and wrapped it around my neck.
And he melted my heart.
Since that day, I've been blessed with many more grandchildren, and I cherish each one. So Amanda, Sarah, Travis, Wesley, Jeremy, Taylor, Kaden, Zac, Audrey, Nolan, Ayla, and Billy - your G-ma loves you.
Pictured above are Wesley (on the left when he was about the age Travis was in this story) and Travis (on the right).